This article is part of a series for beginners interested in S&M/B&D
A man's cock and balls are the organs of the body most sexually wired for pleasurable sensation, and there are huge areas of the pain/pleasure boundary to be explored. But even more important is the psychological angle - for most guys, your cock and/or balls is the center of your sexuality. The psychological aspect of having them abused and tortured by a hot master can be an extremely powerful and exciting experience.
The shaft is the least sensitive part of the cock, though the sensitivity of the skin that covers it increases greatly when stretched during erection. Therefore a hard cock is much more fragile than a soft one. The soft cock can be struck with the palm of the hand, knuckles, cock-whips, rulers, squeezed with your hands, scratched with fingernails and rough-textured objects like stiff brushes; subjected to extremes of hot and cold (temperature play); or pinched with fingers or clothespins and clamps. Just make sure you don't go overboard with this, you don't want to injure or cause bleeding. When erect, similar techniques could be applied but much more gently. In both cases avoid too much pressure on the underside, where the urethra is closest to the surface.
The fold of skin that covers the head is a great place to torture your cub. Its very sensitive, with nerves and blood vessels, and a little more sensitive than the shaft, particularly on the inside. Even if your play partner is circumcised you can still inflict pain on the frenum, the web-like fold of skin that connects the shaft and head. The frenum is usually the most sensitive part of the cock, so there are many possibilities here for lots of pain and/or pleasure. Try pinching, pulling; even clothespins work nicely. The foreskin as a whole can be squeezed, stretched and twisted fairly firmly with no real harmful effects.
The head is mostly spongy tissue covered in a thin, tight and highly sensitive skin layer. It's the most sensitive part of the dick, even more so in many uncircumcised men, and particularly so on the underside. Little effort is needed to produce results, and some men find even gentle stroking difficult to bear. Can be struck like the shaft, squeezed, pinched, subjected to temperature play, rubbed and abraded and so on.
Often very sensitive and tender, particularly just inside, the piss slit can be carefully teased with fingers or other objects such as a lubed up q-tip, or by pulling and twisting on a healed Prince Albert piercing (PA). Keep in mind that the urethra is sterile inside and any objects inserted more than a centimeter (0.5") or so should be sterile too. Be gentle with genital piercings: if you rip a ring out, you'll need medical help to repair the damage and avoid a nasty scar or infection.
Balls
Ball torture involves a range of techniques to cause sensation, discomfort and pain. Common examples are squeezing with hands, slapping and beating with hands and other objects, crushing using various vice-like devices and applying pressure with bindings, straps and weights.
So what's the thrill? As most men know, the balls are highly sensitive, particularly to pressure. Most men find handling, stroking and squeezing gently is a pleasurable sensation in itself, and the boundary between strong sensation and outright pain seems blurred. For many guys there is also the thrill that the balls are regarded as probably the most delicate and vulnerable part of the male anatomy and using them in BDSM games requires great trust and some basic knowledge to do it safely.
The simplest form of ball torture is simply squeezing them in your hand. By pulling down on the balls before squeezing them, they rest at the bottom of the sack and can be tortured more effectively. Start gently and work your way up from there until he has reached his limit. While squeezing them, you can manipulate them in your palm, causing them to rub against one another. This rubbing presses on the nerves that line the outside of the balls and causes sharp pain.
Slapping is another great method. When the scrotum hangs loose, gently slap his balls from side to side. Increase the force and frequency slowly, work you way up til he's squirming and moaning in pain. Know when to slow down and let him rest.
CBT Techniques
Effective CBT usually will require you to tie down your bottom. You want him to stay put while you're working his balls over. You can do this spread-eagle on the bed, a cross, sawhorse or against a wall. During a scene, the snugness of the bindings could be increased so that erections are deliberately made uncomfortable or painful (there are some hazards to this -- see below) This can be achieved with cords, laces or thongs, for example tightly connecting loops around the head with loops anchored round the base of cock and balls. A variety of cock straps are also available, such as the 'anti-erect'.
CBT Toys
Your hands are the obvious weapons here: precisely controllable and always available. Slap (gently), punch (more gently), or flick with fingertips, and carefully squeeze with the fingers. Get the balls in the bottom of the scrotum, then twist the scrotum around above them to prevent them slipping out of your fingers. One of the most common toys is undoubtedly the cock ring. With some men, the difference in cock size between erect and soft is so large that it's impossible to find a size that stays on all the time but isn't dangerously tight and uncomfortable on erection. A variation on a ring is a simple cock strap that goes on the same way, often made of leather or neoprene and adjustable to size.
Try using a tracing wheel, found very inexpensively at any craft store. Use it to trace over the tied up balls or cock. Using hot wax on his balls is yet another way to keep him in line. A soft wax will melt faster and cooler, while the hard wax will burn slow and hot. Drip the wax slowly and all along the surface of the scrotum.
There are various items you can use to clamp down on the scrotum. Nipple clamps, clothes pins, and binder clips work great. Leaving these on for a period of time allows the bottom to adjust to the pain and pressure. However, when you remove them it will be extremely painful. Don't leave anything clamped on for too long though, no more than 15-20 minutes.
Cords, ropes, and bandages can all be wrapped in various ways around the balls to stretch the scrotum, force balls apart or together and put pressure on individual balls. A basic tie is a loop around the base of both cock and balls, a loop around the neck of the scrotum and then a loop between the balls to force them apart. Leather and fetish shops usually have a range of toys (usually leather, rubber or neoprene) with various arrangements of straps. For example, cock and ball straps and dividers anchor the balls in place round the base of the scrotum and cock and pass around the scrotum vertically to separate the balls.
Ball stretchers are straps of leather in different sizes that go around the top of the scrotum horizontally, forcing the balls down into the stretched sack. You can also use ace bandages, ropes or shower curtain rings which can be gradually wrapped around to increase the pressure. Just a modest strap around the top of the scrotum will have the additional effect of trapping the balls and preventing them slipping out. Parachutes are square pieces of leather with a hole in the middle for the balls to pass through, with the parachute itself resting on top of the balls. Ball weights are then hung from chains below the parachute. Weights can also be hung from arrangements of chain or rope. Be very careful when using weights: start slowly and with just a little at a time. You want to give the sub time to get used to the additional weight and make sure he can handle it. Watch him closely and look for any signs he cant take anymore. Weights of 1-5 lbs. should be enough to be safe, use caution when using more than that.
Crushing the balls can be achieved with various clamps or bondage equipment like saran wrap or elastic bandages. I've used a woodworking vise on a guys balls before, this can be a lot of fun if done right. You can get them at a hardware store, or in my case online form a woodworking supply company. Just use a small vise with 2 flat plates and it'll work fine. Always work slowly, and gradually increase to higher pressure. Another CBT device that I've found works wonders is the simple back massager. Mine is the electric plug in type, and provides some intense pounding action to someones tied up balls!
Toys for beating need to be fairly light and delicate. A pen will work fine to start with, especially for rapid light strokes. If he can take more, use a small paddle and begin slowly and with light pressure. Work your way up gradually and watch him for any signs of bleeding or swelling.
Safety
The key thing to remember is that levels of tolerance vary enormously. When you're playing with anyone new, always start out lightly with any kind of stimulation to the balls and increase the intensity gradually. With an established partner or in "self-abuse," you can safely begin at a higher level and move faster, but you should still be very sensitive to his (or your own) reactions as you go along. Probably the single most important danger signal in this area is intense and often rapidly increasing pain, so the bottom must be able to let the top know unmistakably when he's had enough. In the vast majority of cases, a bottom whose consciousness is not dulled by alcohol or drugs will have no difficulty in distinguishing between a level of pain that is erotically stimulating and pain that signals real damage.
Probably the most common form of CBT involves pressure exerted by "ball crushers," the hands, or weights. While even a heavy, experienced masochist is almost certain to beg for relief well before damage is done through steady pressure alone, if you have any doubt whether you're injuring him, stop. Ball stretchers aren't hazardous within reasonable limits, but don't get impatient and over do it. Begin with a narrow stretcher band and work up to wider ones gradually, carefully monitoring the bottom's acceptance of the increasing pressure. Do not leave the any bindings on too long and certainly not overnight. A good rule of thumb is to remove them every 20-30 minutes and allow the circulation to return to normal for a while.
Much more potentially hazardous is any bondage in which the balls are tied to something else, such as another part of the body or a hook on wall or floor, and might be yanked by a sudden movement. For example, if you tie a rope or attach a chain between his ankles and his scrotum so that if he tries to move his legs he pulls on his balls. Don't combine this kind of bondage with any other strong stimulation that might cause him to yank on his balls involuntarily, in reaction to pain elsewhere, unless he's otherwise so tightly restrained he cannot move enough to put pressure on them.
And never tie someone by the balls to a wall, post, etc. in a standing position without additional support. He could lose his balance or faint and put his whole body weight on them. The most common injuries to the balls during CBT are abrasions (usually from rough-surfaced bindings, such as rawhide or scratchy rope), bruises (usually from slapping or whipping the balls), and tiny cuts (which might happen in any rough play when the scrotum is pulled tight over the balls, or during shaving). Bruises generally heal by themselves, though an ice pack can limit swelling.
More serious is a hematoma, which occurs when an injury ruptures larger, deeper blood vessels and a pocket of blood forms between layers of tissue, such as between the scrotum and the balls. The pocket of blood will generally clot in a short time and form a hard mass. Externally, it will appear as a firm, swollen area. If the pressure of a hematoma is not relieved, permanent damage can result.
The most serious damage that might occur to the balls during CBT is rupture of a testicle. This is when the outer covering of the ball splits and allows the contents to spill out into the scrotal sac. Besides causing extreme pain, often accompanied by nausea, a ruptured testicle will make the scrotum swell rapidly, and internal bleeding will nearly always create a large hematoma. The scrotum will appear black and blue and be massively enlarged. If this happens, go to an emergency room immediately! Symptoms similar to rupture occur in cases of testicular torsion, which is when the spermatic cords and vessels that suspend the testicle within the scrotum become twisted, interrupting normal bloodflow. There will be intense pain, and the scrotum will swell rapidly and be extremely tender to the touch. Surgery must be done within six hours of the onset of pain or the testicle will be lost.
Another danger in CBT is circulation blockage, as pain may not be a reliable indicator. Tissue that's deprived of blood eventually stops hurting -- which doesn't mean it's ok! It may be irreversibly damaged. Any binding is too tight if it cuts into the skin and causes bleeding. Any binding is on too long if it causes the cock or balls to become cold or numb, but the third typical sign of circulation problems in limbs that are bound ( loss of color) is less reliable in this case. The cock and balls normally become engorged with blood during sexual arousal, turning red or purple as a result, and up to a point genital bondage just helps that process along. Circulation could be dangerously impaired by tight bindings before there's much loss of color.
A good rule of thumb is to loosen tight genital bindings enough to restore full circulation every 20 to 30 minutes even without any signs of a problem. And in no case should anything tighter than a comfortable ring or harness be left in place overnight or throughout an extended scene.
The shaft is the least sensitive part of the cock, though the sensitivity of the skin that covers it increases greatly when stretched during erection. Therefore a hard cock is much more fragile than a soft one. The soft cock can be struck with the palm of the hand, knuckles, cock-whips, rulers, squeezed with your hands, scratched with fingernails and rough-textured objects like stiff brushes; subjected to extremes of hot and cold (temperature play); or pinched with fingers or clothespins and clamps. Just make sure you don't go overboard with this, you don't want to injure or cause bleeding. When erect, similar techniques could be applied but much more gently. In both cases avoid too much pressure on the underside, where the urethra is closest to the surface.
The fold of skin that covers the head is a great place to torture your cub. Its very sensitive, with nerves and blood vessels, and a little more sensitive than the shaft, particularly on the inside. Even if your play partner is circumcised you can still inflict pain on the frenum, the web-like fold of skin that connects the shaft and head. The frenum is usually the most sensitive part of the cock, so there are many possibilities here for lots of pain and/or pleasure. Try pinching, pulling; even clothespins work nicely. The foreskin as a whole can be squeezed, stretched and twisted fairly firmly with no real harmful effects.
The head is mostly spongy tissue covered in a thin, tight and highly sensitive skin layer. It's the most sensitive part of the dick, even more so in many uncircumcised men, and particularly so on the underside. Little effort is needed to produce results, and some men find even gentle stroking difficult to bear. Can be struck like the shaft, squeezed, pinched, subjected to temperature play, rubbed and abraded and so on.
Often very sensitive and tender, particularly just inside, the piss slit can be carefully teased with fingers or other objects such as a lubed up q-tip, or by pulling and twisting on a healed Prince Albert piercing (PA). Keep in mind that the urethra is sterile inside and any objects inserted more than a centimeter (0.5") or so should be sterile too. Be gentle with genital piercings: if you rip a ring out, you'll need medical help to repair the damage and avoid a nasty scar or infection.
Balls
Ball torture involves a range of techniques to cause sensation, discomfort and pain. Common examples are squeezing with hands, slapping and beating with hands and other objects, crushing using various vice-like devices and applying pressure with bindings, straps and weights.
So what's the thrill? As most men know, the balls are highly sensitive, particularly to pressure. Most men find handling, stroking and squeezing gently is a pleasurable sensation in itself, and the boundary between strong sensation and outright pain seems blurred. For many guys there is also the thrill that the balls are regarded as probably the most delicate and vulnerable part of the male anatomy and using them in BDSM games requires great trust and some basic knowledge to do it safely.
The simplest form of ball torture is simply squeezing them in your hand. By pulling down on the balls before squeezing them, they rest at the bottom of the sack and can be tortured more effectively. Start gently and work your way up from there until he has reached his limit. While squeezing them, you can manipulate them in your palm, causing them to rub against one another. This rubbing presses on the nerves that line the outside of the balls and causes sharp pain.
Slapping is another great method. When the scrotum hangs loose, gently slap his balls from side to side. Increase the force and frequency slowly, work you way up til he's squirming and moaning in pain. Know when to slow down and let him rest.
CBT Techniques
Effective CBT usually will require you to tie down your bottom. You want him to stay put while you're working his balls over. You can do this spread-eagle on the bed, a cross, sawhorse or against a wall. During a scene, the snugness of the bindings could be increased so that erections are deliberately made uncomfortable or painful (there are some hazards to this -- see below) This can be achieved with cords, laces or thongs, for example tightly connecting loops around the head with loops anchored round the base of cock and balls. A variety of cock straps are also available, such as the 'anti-erect'.
CBT Toys
Your hands are the obvious weapons here: precisely controllable and always available. Slap (gently), punch (more gently), or flick with fingertips, and carefully squeeze with the fingers. Get the balls in the bottom of the scrotum, then twist the scrotum around above them to prevent them slipping out of your fingers. One of the most common toys is undoubtedly the cock ring. With some men, the difference in cock size between erect and soft is so large that it's impossible to find a size that stays on all the time but isn't dangerously tight and uncomfortable on erection. A variation on a ring is a simple cock strap that goes on the same way, often made of leather or neoprene and adjustable to size.
Try using a tracing wheel, found very inexpensively at any craft store. Use it to trace over the tied up balls or cock. Using hot wax on his balls is yet another way to keep him in line. A soft wax will melt faster and cooler, while the hard wax will burn slow and hot. Drip the wax slowly and all along the surface of the scrotum.
There are various items you can use to clamp down on the scrotum. Nipple clamps, clothes pins, and binder clips work great. Leaving these on for a period of time allows the bottom to adjust to the pain and pressure. However, when you remove them it will be extremely painful. Don't leave anything clamped on for too long though, no more than 15-20 minutes.
Cords, ropes, and bandages can all be wrapped in various ways around the balls to stretch the scrotum, force balls apart or together and put pressure on individual balls. A basic tie is a loop around the base of both cock and balls, a loop around the neck of the scrotum and then a loop between the balls to force them apart. Leather and fetish shops usually have a range of toys (usually leather, rubber or neoprene) with various arrangements of straps. For example, cock and ball straps and dividers anchor the balls in place round the base of the scrotum and cock and pass around the scrotum vertically to separate the balls.
Ball stretchers are straps of leather in different sizes that go around the top of the scrotum horizontally, forcing the balls down into the stretched sack. You can also use ace bandages, ropes or shower curtain rings which can be gradually wrapped around to increase the pressure. Just a modest strap around the top of the scrotum will have the additional effect of trapping the balls and preventing them slipping out. Parachutes are square pieces of leather with a hole in the middle for the balls to pass through, with the parachute itself resting on top of the balls. Ball weights are then hung from chains below the parachute. Weights can also be hung from arrangements of chain or rope. Be very careful when using weights: start slowly and with just a little at a time. You want to give the sub time to get used to the additional weight and make sure he can handle it. Watch him closely and look for any signs he cant take anymore. Weights of 1-5 lbs. should be enough to be safe, use caution when using more than that.
Crushing the balls can be achieved with various clamps or bondage equipment like saran wrap or elastic bandages. I've used a woodworking vise on a guys balls before, this can be a lot of fun if done right. You can get them at a hardware store, or in my case online form a woodworking supply company. Just use a small vise with 2 flat plates and it'll work fine. Always work slowly, and gradually increase to higher pressure. Another CBT device that I've found works wonders is the simple back massager. Mine is the electric plug in type, and provides some intense pounding action to someones tied up balls!
Toys for beating need to be fairly light and delicate. A pen will work fine to start with, especially for rapid light strokes. If he can take more, use a small paddle and begin slowly and with light pressure. Work your way up gradually and watch him for any signs of bleeding or swelling.
Safety
The key thing to remember is that levels of tolerance vary enormously. When you're playing with anyone new, always start out lightly with any kind of stimulation to the balls and increase the intensity gradually. With an established partner or in "self-abuse," you can safely begin at a higher level and move faster, but you should still be very sensitive to his (or your own) reactions as you go along. Probably the single most important danger signal in this area is intense and often rapidly increasing pain, so the bottom must be able to let the top know unmistakably when he's had enough. In the vast majority of cases, a bottom whose consciousness is not dulled by alcohol or drugs will have no difficulty in distinguishing between a level of pain that is erotically stimulating and pain that signals real damage.
Probably the most common form of CBT involves pressure exerted by "ball crushers," the hands, or weights. While even a heavy, experienced masochist is almost certain to beg for relief well before damage is done through steady pressure alone, if you have any doubt whether you're injuring him, stop. Ball stretchers aren't hazardous within reasonable limits, but don't get impatient and over do it. Begin with a narrow stretcher band and work up to wider ones gradually, carefully monitoring the bottom's acceptance of the increasing pressure. Do not leave the any bindings on too long and certainly not overnight. A good rule of thumb is to remove them every 20-30 minutes and allow the circulation to return to normal for a while.
Much more potentially hazardous is any bondage in which the balls are tied to something else, such as another part of the body or a hook on wall or floor, and might be yanked by a sudden movement. For example, if you tie a rope or attach a chain between his ankles and his scrotum so that if he tries to move his legs he pulls on his balls. Don't combine this kind of bondage with any other strong stimulation that might cause him to yank on his balls involuntarily, in reaction to pain elsewhere, unless he's otherwise so tightly restrained he cannot move enough to put pressure on them.
And never tie someone by the balls to a wall, post, etc. in a standing position without additional support. He could lose his balance or faint and put his whole body weight on them. The most common injuries to the balls during CBT are abrasions (usually from rough-surfaced bindings, such as rawhide or scratchy rope), bruises (usually from slapping or whipping the balls), and tiny cuts (which might happen in any rough play when the scrotum is pulled tight over the balls, or during shaving). Bruises generally heal by themselves, though an ice pack can limit swelling.
More serious is a hematoma, which occurs when an injury ruptures larger, deeper blood vessels and a pocket of blood forms between layers of tissue, such as between the scrotum and the balls. The pocket of blood will generally clot in a short time and form a hard mass. Externally, it will appear as a firm, swollen area. If the pressure of a hematoma is not relieved, permanent damage can result.
The most serious damage that might occur to the balls during CBT is rupture of a testicle. This is when the outer covering of the ball splits and allows the contents to spill out into the scrotal sac. Besides causing extreme pain, often accompanied by nausea, a ruptured testicle will make the scrotum swell rapidly, and internal bleeding will nearly always create a large hematoma. The scrotum will appear black and blue and be massively enlarged. If this happens, go to an emergency room immediately! Symptoms similar to rupture occur in cases of testicular torsion, which is when the spermatic cords and vessels that suspend the testicle within the scrotum become twisted, interrupting normal bloodflow. There will be intense pain, and the scrotum will swell rapidly and be extremely tender to the touch. Surgery must be done within six hours of the onset of pain or the testicle will be lost.
Another danger in CBT is circulation blockage, as pain may not be a reliable indicator. Tissue that's deprived of blood eventually stops hurting -- which doesn't mean it's ok! It may be irreversibly damaged. Any binding is too tight if it cuts into the skin and causes bleeding. Any binding is on too long if it causes the cock or balls to become cold or numb, but the third typical sign of circulation problems in limbs that are bound ( loss of color) is less reliable in this case. The cock and balls normally become engorged with blood during sexual arousal, turning red or purple as a result, and up to a point genital bondage just helps that process along. Circulation could be dangerously impaired by tight bindings before there's much loss of color.
A good rule of thumb is to loosen tight genital bindings enough to restore full circulation every 20 to 30 minutes even without any signs of a problem. And in no case should anything tighter than a comfortable ring or harness be left in place overnight or throughout an extended scene.
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