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Dripping hot candle wax on bare skin may sound pretty scary, but properly applied wax can be a very erotic addition to a bondage/domination scene. The trick is to choose the right candles and letting the wax cool by letting it fall a distance before it hits the skin.

Most beginners might make the mistake of buying expensive candles. Actually, these are precisely the wrong candles to use. Almost all expensive candles are made from beeswax. This is because it is easier to mold into exotic shapes and burns for a long time. Unfortunately, the reason a beeswax candle lasts for a long time is that it has a melting point thats much higher than the cheaper candles. Avoid dripless candles. They contain chemicals that are very likely to irritate skin.

The best candles to begin with are the cheapest: the ugly white votive candles or standard white candles. It's a good idea to test the temperature of any candle before using it on a submissive by letting it drip from various heights onto the skin on the underside of your forearm. Unless you know what it feels like and the temperature, you wont be unable to judge exactly how far away to hold the candles.

Having your sub firmly tied down their first time is a good idea because the stimulation provided by the hot wax can inspire considerable thrashing around. After he's familiar with it, I can generally skip the bondage unless they are needed for other reasons.

Generally, I begin dripping the wax at a height of three feet, slowly working downward. The final height depends on where I want him and what I am planning for the rest of the session. I also keep a bowl of ice cubes handy in case the wax gets a bit too hot, and they're handy for some erotic techniques I'll describe later.

Dripping can be done in several ways. The candle can be held horizontal and rotated by the fingers so that the top is melted evenly and the drips are fairly regular. To speed up the dripping, you can lower the lit end so the flame is flowing over the wax. To get better control of the timing of the drips, you can tip the candle, drop a bit of wax and then return it to an upright position until you want to drop a bit more wax.

Splashing is a technique a little more shocking. You allow a pool of wax to build up in the candle and then dash it on the sub's body. Because of the unexpectedness of the action and because the larger quantity of wax holds heat better, this is much more stimulating. Another way to splash is to use a brandy warmer, one of those little gadgets that holds a brandy glass above a small alcohol lamp. Put the wax in a brandy glass and let it sit over the flame until the wax is melted. You can then slowly dribble the melted wax or splash it on all at once. But be careful! Test the temperature of the wax with a finger before using it; the alcohol flame can raise the temperature of the wax considerably above the melting point. Also, a pool of wax will not cool nearly as fast as single drops. With a little common sense, the entire body can be your target. Obviously, things like open sores and his eyes are off limits.

Colored candles burn hotter and contain dyes that can irritate a submissive's skin. For this reason, I do not use them during an initiation to waxing. You can however experiment by dripping a few drops of different colored wax on a confined area and later examine where each of the drops landed. If there is any redness or irritation, the color which caused it is off limits in future sessions. Colored candles also allow the artist in the dominant to come forth. It is possible to produce very attractive designs using your submissive as a canvas.

BDSM is truly a study in contrasts. This is nowhere more appropriate than a waxing scene. There is no reason why you have to limit yourself to hot wax. Drop by the kitchen for a drink and pick up a glassful of ice cubes while you're there. There's a lot of ways to combine fire and ice. The simplest is to alternate sensations: cold for nipples; hot for cock; cold for belly; hot for balls. Particularly if the submissive is blindfolded, it is amusing to randomly vary the kinds of stimulation. It keeps him guessing and in a constant state of arousal.

Another approach is to use both on the same spot. For example, a section of skin is chilled for a few seconds with the ice cube and then receives a splash of hot wax. After a while, your submissive may be surprised to discover that he can no longer distinguish between hot and cold.

Most waxing is done with the submissive horizontal. That affords the maximum of available targets and the easiest application. However, sometimes this may not be possible or practical. A vertical body calls for some variations in technique.